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Love is the absence of reasons to hate

  • 29 September 2009

You never saw yourself You never saw yourself asleep — as far as you let on. You'd read stories about near-death events, books on lucid dreaming — intrigued by a spirit looking down on its body from just below the ceiling, or circling its house like a hawk. Never saw yourself through my eyes, invincible without your defences, drained of fear and hostility, forgiven there & then.

You never saw yourself, asleep, totally out of the loop, basic as an infant — an equation so readily solved, all my matching hostilities would evaporate on the spot. Only to form again the next day, the fine human rain of mistrust.

Cooling down We've been fighting, you've been beating your fists against my intractable wall — your version, of course, flawed as mine. It's taken us years to give up on logic, to realise neither will bleed to death. It's exhausting, even so, and you opt for an early night. You won't be aware of this rain, its muffled, irregular heartbeat borrowing from ours.

Cool air starts to settle on your skin, your sleepwalking fingers tug at the sheet. I pull it up over your shoulder, my alien fingers blend seamlessly with those in your virtual world. Outside, a massive eucalypt trunk now looks like a fat man in a sauna, its red hide sweating a pearly fever that will be gone by morning. Sleep can be our referee, holding up a score card tomorrow, if we still want to know.

Whatever you asked Whatever you asked, either of you: take this medicine, take this food. Shape your lips around this prayer. Close your eyes: goodnight, goodnight. For the years that are counted on fingers, you had me in the palms of your hands, cherished, watched over, controlled — so clearly in focus, I might have been heirloom: all care not to drop it, ever. Care written into the contract. Before it is anything, love is precisely the absence of reasons to hate.

Bending over me at bedtime — blankets up to my chin, waiting to kiss and be kissed — you would have thought it odd to inquire if I loved you in return, connected to you as I was by words, at home in your time and space.

Everything seems a given, until time drives a wedge. It must all be intended — misunderstandings, resentments, the jumble of rights and wrongs. Neither side quite forgiving the other for feeling a need to move on.

Brisbane poet Michael Sariban is the author of four collections. These poems are from two forthcoming titles: The Devil You Know ('Cooling down' and 'You never saw yourself') and Berlin Journal ('Whatever