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Inter-racial marriages finally get some attention

Megan Graham |  02 August 2017


The Big Sick (M).Director: Michael Showalter. Starring: Kumail Nanjiani, Zoe Kazan, Holly Hunter, Ray Romano. 120 minutes.

xxxxxAbout one in six newlyweds in the United States is involved in a ‘mixed marriage’, according to the Pew Research Center. At home, the percentage is higher; in 2009 approximately 42 per cent of marriages involved at least one partner who was not born in Australia. Among Indigenous Australians, the percentage of ‘mixed’ couples is thought to be higher still – around 60 per cent.

Yet such a high proportion of interracial relationships is rarely represented on the big screen, particularly in a Hollywood ‘rom-com’. Which goes some way to explaining why The Big Sick could be just the breath of fresh air this stagnating genre needs.

This is a romantic story with real heart – even more so when considering the fact it is based on a remarkable true story. The latest Apatow Productions comedy has several delightful deviations from the norm: the lead character is not white, but is in fact an Indian Uber driver called Kumail. Further, his culture is not sidelined or ignored, but actually becomes key to the whole plot.

Kumail Nanjiani (played by himself) is a would-be comedian who lives in a crappy apartment and drives Uber to make ends meet. Along with three stand-up comic pals, Kumail diligently performs his routines in the hopes of impressing talent scouts and making it into competitions.

On another predictable night of well-worn sets and mildly amused crowds, Kumail is heckled by the effortlessly adorable Emily (Zoe Kazan). Post-show, he accuses her of heckling and she explains that, no, she was being supportive. She then offers a string of undeniably flattering “heckles” and Kumail instantly resigns himself to her charm.

This is enough to spark up an obvious chemistry, and thus set Emily and Kumail on track to fall rather hopelessly in love.

That they have differing different cultural backgrounds is not ignored, but rather seen as inconsequential to the development of their relationship. While this is a mark of progress for a country that has historically struggled with interracial relationships, the irony is that their cultural differences become all too relevant as things progress.


"Such a successful and unique film leaves the door wide open for more mainstream depictions of the lives of culturally diverse people."


An easy, saccharine courtship becomes increasingly fraught by the fact Kumail faces very real repercussions if he allows it to continue, with a family insistent on an arranged marriage with an Indian woman. Kumail risks being cast out of his family.

This is where this amusing comedy takes a detour. One day post break-up Kumail receives a call from a friend of Emily’s telling him that she’s in hospital with a bad infection. And thus, the film’s second act begins.

A very ill Emily is put into a medically induced coma, and Kumail is thrown into a new and bizarre relationship with her worried parents – while at the same time dealing with the increasingly fractured relationship he has with his own.

This is an artfully made rom-com that will knock you around a bit, while simultaneously picking you back up with the next dose of honesty-turned-hilarity in Judd Apatow’s iconic style. There are many laugh-out-loud moments and well timed lines to keep the seriousness of this love story at a (mostly) safe distance—but beware, the sadder moments hit pretty hard.

It wasn’t until the end of the film that I learned this was a true story, and that it was co-written by Kumail and his wife Emily. What already felt like a very ‘real’ story—with non-clichéd romance, believable characters and confrontingly true-to-life tragedy—became that bit more poignant, and beautiful.

It’s clear this is a special film set to win over Western audiences—it was well received at the Sundance Film Festival, evidenced by the fact Amazon paid $12 million for the film’s distribution rights (close to a record deal for the festival). There’s also some Oscar buzz for the screenplay, and a bevy of rave reviews already popping up.

Importantly, such a successful and unique film leaves the door wide open for more mainstream depictions of the lives of culturally diverse people. If this is an indication of the progressive future of the Hollywood rom-com, I look forward to seeing what comes next.


Megan GrahamMegan Graham is a Melbourne based writer.



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Thanks, Megan, for your review. Mixed marriages are so important for weaving a society that appreciates difference. I'm grateful to my parents for having the courage to marry resisting the fears and prejudgements in Orange and Green animosity. A great way for me to grow up not believing the lies about the Others.

Alex Nelson 04 August 2017

I saw this film as a result of reading this article. Sadly I was very disappointed with the amount of disgusting language it contained - your article didn't mention this so I wasn't forewarned. A good story particularly as it was based on a true story, spoiled by the extent of the bad language which, surely, wasn't necessary. I realise comedy theatre may contain bad language but was it necessary to have quite so much? Quite disappointing.

Val 04 August 2017

Hi Val, I haven't seen the movie or the extent of the bad language, but I did see that it's rated (M), so that's a fair indication that it probably includes expletives. For me the issue isn't the use of expletives per se, but when expletives are used lazily as a substitute for humour and wit. For me I'm offense of the intellect rather than any type of moral dis-edification.

AURELIUS 05 August 2017

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